along with thick, "healthy" should also not be used as a comment to a woman...e.i. saying "you look awfully healthy" is another way of saying, "wow, you're fat!"
Do you think the broader issue here is that there are so many taboos for evaluating the female body? Why is it up for analysis in the first place? It reminds me of those people who describe anyone who isn't white by their skin color when telling a story and don't notice that they do it.
I'll add a name to the list. I knew a mom whose kids referred to anyone they didn't like as "stinky lady", which is endlessly funny in any application.
It reminds me of those people who describe anyone who isn't white by their skin color when telling a story and don't notice that they do it.
Is this bad? I've only ever heard "white" and "black" used as terms - both which are normal and not taboo. i.e. "black babies are so cute," "white people can't dance"
Sweeping generalizations can be dangerous. The person who says "white people can't dance" is saying that a particular race is physically deficient. So, yes, that's bad. To tell someone they're a crappy dancer is just an evaluation of their skill, and that's fine. But when it's qualified by descriptors that should be irrelevant (pigment, in this case), it crosses a line.
Example: in the seventh grade, I about got the crap kicked out of me. In the locker room after gym some other kids were being loud. I said in passing, "I wish those girls would shut up". However, when the offending party thought I said, "I wish those (black) girls would shut up" - WOW - major drama. And I can see why. If I had really said what they thought I had, I would have been insinuating that their whole race was a nuisance and should adapt its behavior to fit whatever restrictions my race preferred. Luckily, a friend came to my defense and affirmed that I was not, in fact, a bigoted creep but merely a kid with a headache. Tragedy averted.
For those of you who went to schools like Asbury College and who feel that racial diversity lacks, check out this HILARIOUS parody ad for Indiana Wesleyan.
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So tell me Jay, how did you come about making this list? Not from personal experience I hope. :-)
06 December, 2005 09:00
Thankfully, no, not from personal experience. Typically from our good friend Raymond.
06 December, 2005 09:28
I would like to take this opportunity to thank Ray, for making so many mistakes that we men can learn from before we commit them in our own families.
06 December, 2005 09:45
As long as "vindictive harpy" is still okay...
06 December, 2005 10:47
along with thick, "healthy" should also not be used as a comment to a woman...e.i. saying "you look awfully healthy" is another way of saying, "wow, you're fat!"
P.S. Great series of tips BTW
06 December, 2005 20:04
"healthy" does work if you are referring to someone who might be in poor health, such as a grandparent.
06 December, 2005 22:58
Do you think the broader issue here is that there are so many taboos for evaluating the female body? Why is it up for analysis in the first place? It reminds me of those people who describe anyone who isn't white by their skin color when telling a story and don't notice that they do it.
I'll add a name to the list. I knew a mom whose kids referred to anyone they didn't like as "stinky lady", which is endlessly funny in any application.
07 December, 2005 00:27
That's a good point VM.
07 December, 2005 10:07
Thanks, stinky lady.
(See? HEE-larious.)
07 December, 2005 11:14
Nicely played VM!
07 December, 2005 12:47
:-(
I will however, point out that this is Jason's topic. I only get in trouble for commenting on eye brows.
07 December, 2005 13:09
It reminds me of those people who describe anyone who isn't white by their skin color when telling a story and don't notice that they do it.
Is this bad? I've only ever heard "white" and "black" used as terms - both which are normal and not taboo. i.e. "black babies are so cute," "white people can't dance"
07 December, 2005 14:02
Sweeping generalizations can be dangerous. The person who says "white people can't dance" is saying that a particular race is physically deficient. So, yes, that's bad. To tell someone they're a crappy dancer is just an evaluation of their skill, and that's fine. But when it's qualified by descriptors that should be irrelevant (pigment, in this case), it crosses a line.
Example: in the seventh grade, I about got the crap kicked out of me. In the locker room after gym some other kids were being loud. I said in passing, "I wish those girls would shut up". However, when the offending party thought I said, "I wish those (black) girls would shut up" - WOW - major drama. And I can see why. If I had really said what they thought I had, I would have been insinuating that their whole race was a nuisance and should adapt its behavior to fit whatever restrictions my race preferred. Luckily, a friend came to my defense and affirmed that I was not, in fact, a bigoted creep but merely a kid with a headache. Tragedy averted.
07 December, 2005 15:55
For those of you who went to schools like Asbury College and who feel that racial diversity lacks, check out this HILARIOUS parody ad for Indiana Wesleyan.
07 December, 2005 17:03
hahaha... I had two friends at Taylor, one was black and the other Indian (like the continent in Asia)
They used to laugh about how they were always featured in Taylor's admissions material.
07 December, 2005 17:26
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